this is motherhood {too}

Logo_04_21_2014_102726AMYour testimonies are my heritage forever,
    for they are the joy of my heart.

Psalm 119:111


This is a place where mama’s share stories. The ones that have shaped them, changed them, moved them, broken them.

This is where we strip back the layers. It’s where we glean from one another, and we learn to give thanks, each and every day for all the gifts we have. Sometimes writing the story is the hardest, holiest part. But we begin anew when we plant our words in the hopes that someone else will see clearly, love fiercely, breathe deeply.

Motherhood, to me, has become something incredibly beautiful, but far more challenging than I was expecting.

No one tells you, hey, you might give birth to a sick baby, and she won’t reach a single physical milestone. You’ll be up late at night scanning through “4 month old milestones” and torturing yourself because your little one does not fit onto the list.
When did she start crawling? Does she eat solids yet? She will be walking before you know it! Has she sped through all of the baby steps that make her a “normal” child?
No?
Oh.

I know I’m not alone. This is just part of my story, but yours might look really different.

I want to hear your story, your little or big, beautiful story of motherhood.

But the one that’s different.

It’s the one that maybe has made you feel left out, hurt, isolated, broken, free, full of life, or different—like your motherhood experience is just not what you thought it would be. It’s not quite like the picture perfect, happy go lucky journey that we assume motherhood will be. But, it’s still beautiful.

Or maybe it’s not coupled with a pregnancy, but rather overseas visits, loads of paper work and an adopted or fostered child.

I would love to hear from you, dear one! And so would everyone else. Your story has value.

thisisyourmotherhoodstory

SUBMISSIONS:

Send your story to: {ThisIsMotherhoodToo@Gmail.com}

Please include:

  • a short bio
  • photos that I may use for the post
  • any social media links you’d like to share

This is a place where all mother’s can feel at home, and feel that they can share their journey, in the hopes that another mama will relate, or be blessed or learn something new.

Need some help? Here are some questions to get the juices flowing:

  • Was there a specific grief that you have gone through, that has radically shaped your motherhood journey?
  • Why does motherhood look different than you expected? What do you feel you miss out on?
  • Have you had a whole new outlook on what motherhood means?
  • Did you ever feel that you couldn’t be the mama you wanted to be?
  • Do you ever feel like you “can’t do this”, but have learned that you can and you are a mother, no matter what?

 

For those writing for This Is Mama Grief, here are some specific questions and ideas you may address in your piece:

  • what are common misconceptions people have about grief? do you feel misunderstood or misrepresented?
  • do you feel that your grief is too large for people to tackle and that support is limited because people don’t know how to help?
  • do you feel loved and supported in your community? why or why not?
  • how has your grief changed over time?
  • has your grief crippled you or your marriage or your health and wellbeing?
  • how do your other children grieve? how do you as a mama help them grieve?
  • after your child passed or was diagnosed, did you decide to stop having children?
  • if your child is or was medically fragile, did you give yourself permission to grieve?
  • if your child’s condition was genetic and had a high chance or reoccurring in future pregnancies, did you grieve the loss of a normal pregnancy?
  • did you lose your only child?
  • what has grief taught you about yourself? do you feel empowered, stronger, weaker or defeated?
  • how has grief shaped your life since your child passed or was diagnosed?
  • do you fear something happening to your other child(ren) or others in your family because of your loss or a terminal diagnosis?
  • do you suffer from depression or PTSD?
  • how do you acknowledge the anniversary of your child’s passing or birthday?
  • if you could write a letter to your self or another mama on how to prepare for diagnosis or death, what would it say?
  • how do you process the passing of your child? is it something that continues to come back to you? do you feel alone or frightened by it?
  • what did it look like to grieve your child’s diagnosis?
  • in the weeks following your child’s passing, what helped you cope?

 

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