this is motherhood, too: a vision brought to life.

July 10, 2018, Michaela Evanow, 2 Comments

When Florence was alive, I dreamt of bringing together mother’s that had experienced unusual motherhood experiences together. I imagined what it would look like to hold the hands of other bereaved mothers. To share the wild and painful and wonderful ways that motherhood has carved into us. To have someone take our photo and capture that moment of our coming together.

Around five years ago, I started This is Motherhood, Too to help other women feel empowered. I needed it, too. It was the one phrase that kept coming to me whenever I would mother Florence in places and situations that I never ever expected. There have got to me others like me, I thought. This is motherhood. Too. I can’t be alone—even though it’s so isolating.

It can be such a sad experience if you feel like you are the only mother on the planet that has walked down a road you didn’t expect. Over the years many women have shared their stories on my blog of loss, divorce, postpartum anxiety, depression, infertility, special needs, adoption and miscarriage.

The mothers pictured here were so willing to be a part of this and showed up with their stories and mementos and made friends with other women that also have unexpected motherhood experiences.

Our stories and timelines may be different, but as women, we are united in a way that brings immediate bonding. Our stories lack simplicity. But they are rich and layered and complex, just like us.

Over the next few weeks you will meet some incredible women that have graciously opened up their hearts to share with vulnerability and tenderness.

We write for you.

We write for others just like us.

We write for ourselves.

We write to shed light on the other side of motherhood.

You are not alone.

This is motherhood, too.

This project was brought to life by Katie Cross Photography and June Isle Clothier.

Our beautiful clothes were supplied by June Isle. You can find all the pieces here.


  • Reply Sarah July 11, 2018 at 6:03 PM

    How incredibly beautiful…to share such love and heartbreak. Truly what all women need💖

  • Reply Debbie Tuit July 10, 2018 at 12:54 PM

    This is just fantastic Michaela. As you know, Our Nick , who happens to have Down Syndrome , is 35 now. Thirty five years ago the world for him was so very different.
    But I fought and paved roads so that it’s so much better for Doens Syndrome children the past few decades. However. When he crashed into a deep depression 10 after a number of sexual abuses, we lost that awesome young man he had become. He went mute for over three years. Turned to severe OCD to be in charge of his like I guess. Slowly he is coming back. But so far from who he was.
    I am so excited to read all of your stories as they come out. Super idea. God bless you all !

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