on the writing life [round robin blogging tour]
My dear friend Becca from Exile Fertility tagged me in this little tour. It’s going around the blogging world these days, and it’s always fun to join in and write about oneself because it’s easy. Isn’t it?
What are you working on?
I’m working on growing a baby and taking care of my very tall two year old girl, Florence, who was diagnosed with Spinal Muscular Atrophy type 1. She’s a miracle, and she’s dependant on my husband and I for everything. So, it’s a lot of work, but like all types of work, you get used to it–and the things you fumble with, curse at, and Google (i.e best way to unclog a MIC KEY extension tube without squirting gelatinous formula across the kitchen or throwing it out the window and getting a new one, which you can’t yet, because it’s only Tuesday and this damn thing has to last another four days).
Oh, writing? I contribute monthly to an amazing online and real world community, She Loves Magazine. I’m also the weekly editor on Fridays, so I get to pick and pluck through some amazing pieces of work from people like Rachel Pieh Jones and Tina Francis and our guest contributors. One might think it’s too much work, but it is what drives me, what gives me life. I need deadlines and I like routine, so this gig gives me so.much.joy.
I also try to put out my own blog posts, which are often written while I’m crying or raging or just feeling plain nice. I try to keep myself busy with writing so I won’t give it up. I want to be diligent, but often I’m sleeping, running to doctors appointments, or trying not to barf while I think of what to make for dinner (blame pregnancy). Or I just avoid it like the plague because, well, I’m not sure why.
One day I would like to say I’m working on a book about our journey, but until then, it terrifies me, and I really, really admire those that manage to pop out a manuscript and get published. I’ve actually looked into how to publish a book for the future, as I said, I would like to say I’m working on a book about our journey. But phew. It can definitely be something to aspire to though.
2. How does your work differ from others in its genre?
I would like to think I don’t have a genre, but I do write a lot about grief, suffering, motherhood, special needs, faith and finding solid ground with a terminal diagnosis. I am not a special needs mommy blogger though. I never really felt the urge to write about Florence’s medical needs. I try not to talk medical or get technical. I spend so much time in that life. I would rather write about how it affects me, how I am being shaped and healed and broken and how I’m finding Jesus in all of this.
3. Why do you write what you do?
I’ve always loved writing, and before Florence came along, it was a struggle to write about something specific. Now I could write about a number of topics, which are often floating around in my head until I tap, tap, tap them out onto a keyboard. I know I am still young, but we have been through some pretty intense moments, my husband and I, in our five years of marriage, but mostly since Florence came along two years ago.
Now that I’m pregnant again, and we have chosen not to do genetic testing, I feel like I’m living on the edge. I go through stages of obsessing over this baby’s health, falling into the fear trap, rejoicing in hope, and really needing sleep. Writing keeps me grounded, because it’s more than just art or expression, it’s a holy communion with the Father, a prayer.
4. How does your writing process work?
I usually put off writing some pieces unless I really can’t stop my fingers. This happens often, but there are those pieces that I work on, and work on and rewrite and feel so unhappy with, and finally, just hit publish. These are usually vulnerable pieces or about things I don’t feel are in my “genre.” More often than not, the response is far better than expected, which is encouraging.
If I’m lucky, I can pluck at the keys for 30-45 minutes and come up with something I’m happy with. I am not one to write every day though. That kind of discipline is hard to come by around here!
Right now, being pregnant, I write during the day, because nights are a write off. The morning, fuelled by my first cup of coffee, is the best time for me to write.
Holly is a poet and word weaver. She has this way of drawing you in with such force and sophistication. She’s a busy, homeschooling mama to three boys, so I’m curious to hear how the writing process affects her life.
Kali is a mama to eight beautiful towheaded children. She is a busy bee on her little farm (they just got a new milk cow), and lives life with such joy and intention. I know it’s been awhile since she’s written, which is why I’m tagging her, because I love to see her write! She’s such a beautiful, free spirit and is always encouraging me and my writing and my story.