childbirth and visualizations.
Visualizing, chanting, finding a pattern that helps with the flow of labor can be really useful. I wouldn’t know, because I haven’t experienced labor yet. I have, however, been with many mothers as a doula, and have seen their natural reaction to the start and end of a contraction in active labor. They always have rhythm and a ritual. Sometimes it’s hilarious, sometimes precious, sometimes it doesn’t make sense, but if they have nothing to look at, or visualize, I usually find swinging my necklace can help them find their rhythm. A laboring woman often finds something to focus on herself, whether it be a speck on the wall, the top of her husband’s head, or her toe. It’s a natural reaction to intense concentration. I know that I’m the type of person who can have a word, or song, or some obscure sentence stuck in my head for days. It usually appears at night, right as I’m trying to fall asleep. I’ll find myself thinking it over and over, and driving myself crazy. I know I will be the type to chant or stare at something to work through the “rushes.”
You can paint a picture, hang a collage of inspiring birth quotes and art, hang your baby’s first outfit on the wall, or make a banner with colorful flags. This is particularly important if you’re having a hospital birth, because let’s be honest, hospital rooms are rather plain and ugly, especially compared to your own home.
I’m planning on painting or writing on some canvases, and taking them to the hospital so I can prop them up around the room. I’ll also be bringing my favorite mustard scarf, that always smells like home, like me, like mum, no matter what. My pillow is important too, but I have a sneaking suspicion I will forget it by accident. I also hope to have some fresh flowers in the room, such as peonies, roses, or any flower that opens with brilliance. Just like wedding flowers, I believe in the beauty and power of birthing flowers!
And of course, battery operated tea lights. I’m sure my doula will have some, but I’m bringing some too! They are excellent, especially when you’re in a birthing tub, with the lights dimmed.
So, if you have a date with your baby and birthing canal in the near future, find something that inspires you and bring it to the hospital, or fill your home with it’s positive goodness.